我们常常盼着旁人多爱自己几分，事事都顺着自己的心意，却不知这份期盼本身，就是一种苦。人与人之间的诸多矛盾与争执，说到底，都是因这份心念而起。学着放低对人对事的期待，慢慢明白：生命的安稳，从不需要靠他人的关注来成全。当我们不再把幸福寄托在旁人的回应里，将注意力转为提升自己精神世界，培养内在的觉醒，生活便不会被期待紧紧束缚，心也便能得一份自在与从容。——加措上师 We often long for others to love us more and to do everything according to our wishes, yet we fail to realize that this very expectation is itself a form of suffering. In the final analysis, countless conflicts and disputes between people arise from this very state of mind. Learn to lower our expectations of people and things, and gradually come to understand that the peace of life never needs to be fulfilled by the attention of others. When we no longer pin our happiness on the responses of others, but instead turn our attention to enriching our spiritual world and cultivating inner awakening, life will no longer be tightly bound by expectations, and our hearts will attain a sense of ease and serenity.——Respected Teacher Jia Cuo