与人相处总难免有意见相左、言语磕碰的时候。很多时候不过是一句无心之语，没留神轻重，便掀起了口舌风波，闹得彼此心里都添了堵。总有人把冲动易怒、随口发脾气，归作“性子直”“藏不住事”，其实说到底，都不过是为自己的情绪失控找的托词罢了。倘若我们能怀着一颗同理心，遇事多站在对方的处境想一想，多一分包容的胸怀，少一分针尖对麦芒的执拗，便能免去许多无谓的不快与隔阂，日子也会跟着明朗和顺很多。慢慢收敛暴躁的脾气，磨去心头的尖锐，让心一点点柔软下来，我们便离自己本具的慈悲心，越来越近了。——加措上师 In our interactions with others, disagreements and verbal frictions are inevitable. More often than not, a careless remark spoken without considering its impact can stir up a verbal dispute, leaving both sides feeling upset and burdened. Some people always attribute their impulsiveness, irritability and random outbursts of temper to being "straightforward" or "unable to hide their thoughts", but in essence, these are nothing but excuses for their loss of emotional control. If we can hold a heart of empathy, put ourselves in others' positions when encountering issues, have more tolerance and less stubborn confrontation, we can avoid a great deal of unnecessary unhappiness and estrangement, and life will become much brighter and more harmonious. By gradually reining in our irritable temper, polishing away the sharpness in our hearts and softening our mind little by little, we will get closer and closer to the inherent compassion within ourselves.——Respected Teacher Jia Cuo