Why Do Relationships End So Fast?

Speaker 1 (Woman): Nowadays, every month I hear that divorce papers are being filed. Why is this happening?
Speaker 2 (Gurudev): Love gets covered very soon. It almost ends, that's true. People have forgotten age-old love and affection. They stop at mere attraction and mistake it for love. As attraction ends, love also ends. People become very self-centered. They become selfish. They do not care about each other anymore.
In our times, it was not like this. There was respect for others, consideration for their feelings. When that sensitivity decreases, that compassion diminishes, a person thinks only about themselves—me, me, me, me. With such thinking, it feels as though life has become very dry, very dull.

Therefore, when devotion, knowledge, and meditation enter one's life, that dullness disappears. When dullness disappears, then we stop expecting too much from others. When our expectations from others come to an end, we become people who are only here to give.

为什么如今的关系结束得这么快？

女士：现在，我每个月都能听到有人提交离婚文件。这到底是怎么了？

古儒吉：“爱，很快就被蒙上了，走向终结——确实如此。人们忘记了经年累月沉淀下来的爱与情感，他们止步于一时的心动，却错把心动当成了爱。一旦心动结束，爱也随之终结。” 人们变得以自我为中心，变得自私，不再关心彼此。

在我们那个年代，情况并非如此。那时候，我们尊重他人，体谅他人的感受。当一个人变得不再那么敏感，慈悲心也随之减弱。一个人只想着自己：“我，我，我，我”。抱着这样的念头，生命仿佛变得枯槁、沉闷。

因此，当奉献、智慧与冥想进入一个人的生命时，那份沉闷便会消失。当沉闷消失后，我们便不再对他人期望过多。当对他人的期望终结之时，我们便成为了只是来给予的人。 http://t.cn/AXXB8EY6