人生路上，最徒劳无益的交流，莫过于抱怨。你把满腹委屈说给旁人听，听的人再心疼你，也终究无法替你改变那个被抱怨的人。而被你指责的人，从来不会因为你的抱怨心生恐惧，只会生出满满的反感与抗拒。人心本就如此，谁会心甘情愿地，去执行自己打心底里厌恶的指令呢？其实面对让你心生不满的人和事，从来只有两条最清醒的路：要么学会包容，接纳每个人都有自己的局限与不同；要么坦然转身，不纠缠、不消耗，体面地离开。细细想来，世间绝大多数的抱怨，不过是我们内心的我执，向外发起的抗议。放下强求，选择包容或者转身，才是真正放过了自己。——加措上师 On the journey of life, the most futile form of communication is complaining. When you pour out all your grievances to others, no matter how deeply they care about you, they can never change the person you're complaining about for you. And the person you're criticizing will never feel fear because of your complaints; instead, they will only feel full of resentment and resistance. Such is human nature—who would willingly carry out orders they deeply resent? In fact, when facing people and things that displease you, there have always been only two most clear-headed paths: either learn to practice tolerance and accept that everyone has their own limitations and differences, or turn away calmly, without getting entangled or draining yourself, and leave with dignity. Upon careful reflection, the vast majority of complaints in the world are nothing more than protests launched outward by our inner self-attachment. Let go of your demands and choose tolerance or turning away, and that is when you are truly setting yourself free.——Respected Teacher Jia Cuo