总执着于让他人变成自己期待的模样，却不愿反观自身、改变分毫，这本就是执念里最难圆满的虚妄。世间万事，从来不是向外强求，而是向内修行。我们能做的，是先修好自己的心，规范身口意，以柔软善良的发心对待周遭一切。不必刻意向外索取什么、强求什么，当内心清净温和，快乐自会如约而至。若是一味苛责他人该如何，执念越深，烦恼越重，不过是在不断给自己增添痛苦罢了。——加措上师 To cling stubbornly to the delusion that others should live up to our expectations yet refuse to look inward and change even a little is the most unfulfillable falsehood of all attachments. Nothing in this world is gained by forcing outward; it is always about cultivating inward. All we can do is first nurture our heart, discipline our body, speech and mind, treat all around us with gentle kindness, and need not deliberately seek or demand anything externally. When our heart is pure and gentle, happiness will come naturally. If we keep faulting others for how they should be, the deeper our attachment, the heavier our troubles, and we only end up inflicting endless suffering on ourselves.——Respected Teacher Jia Cuo