很多人总固执地认定自己永远是对的，遇事便据理力争，不肯退让半分，还一心想让旁人都认同自己的想法、顺从自己的观点。可细细想来，这般执拗本就毫无意义。每个人的经历不同、心境不同、认知亦不同，看待事物本就有万千角度，从来没有绝对统一的标准答案。非要强行说服他人，非要争出输赢对错，到头来不过是徒增烦恼。执念越深，言语便越尖锐，原本寻常的闲谈，终会演变成互不相让的争执，滋生无尽的隔阂与争吵。到头来赢了口舌，却输了心境，伤了情谊。懂得收敛锋芒，放下无谓的争辩。不必强求别人认同自己，也不必执着是非对错。放宽心，容得下不同见解，守得住内心平和，少一分执拗，便多一分安然，也多一方和睦。——加措上师 Many people stubbornly believe they are always right. Whenever disagreements arise, they argue relentlessly and refuse to yield an inch, insisting that others must agree with their thoughts and conform to their views. Yet upon quiet reflection, such obstinacy is utterly meaningless. Everyone has different life experiences, states of mind and levels of understanding. There are countless perspectives to see the world, and there is never a single absolute standard answer. To force others into submission and insist on winning every argument only brings unnecessary troubles. The deeper one’s obsession, the sharper one’s words become. Casual conversations eventually turn into stubborn disputes, breeding endless estrangement and quarrels. One may win the verbal debate, yet lose inner peace and hurt precious relationships. Learn to temper your edges and let go of futile arguments. Do not force others to recognize your views, nor cling rigidly to right and wrong. Open your heart to embrace different opinions, keep inner tranquility. Let go of obstinacy, and you will gain more peace of mind and harmonious connections with others.——Respected Teacher Jia Cuo