我们常常为着他人的赞许与欢喜，刻意去奔赴、去付出，可一旦未能等来预想中的回应，委屈与怨怼便会顷刻涌现，原本纯粹的心意，最终落得彼此难堪。人总在不自觉间，把自己的行动绑在他人的目光之上。故而，行事要么全然投入而不寄望回馈，要么索性量力而行、不必勉强。抱怨从不能成全什么，它只会先耗散他人的心境，再侵蚀掉你自己的安宁。Too often we strive and exert ourselves merely for the approval and pleasure of others. Yet when the response we anticipate fails to come, grievance and resentment well up at once. What began as a pure intention ends up leaving both sides embarrassed.Unconsciously, we tie our actions to the gaze of others. Therefore, we should either commit ourselves fully without expecting anything in return, or simply do what we can and refrain from overextending. Complaints achieve nothing; they first drain others’ peace of mind, then erode your own tranquility.