英美名篇精读12《傲慢与偏见》之attraction principle.

从Darcy对Elizabeth的首次告白失败，来看傲慢的人面对爱情时的真实反应，也从中归纳出：3条吸引力原则的基本规律.

principle1：

①they are the ones who don't appear to care that much.（不要投射于对方身上过多的关注）
②it's about whether you are capable of holding your own in relationship.（在关系中要能够hold自己的分寸）
③overcompensating or being too eager to please will lessen a man's respect.（过度取悦对方会失去对方的尊重）

principle2：

①a women is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn't feel he has a 100 percent hodl on her.（不断的提升自己，把51%的精力放在自己身上）
②it has to do with your actions and how much of yourself you are willing to give up.（调整自己的一部分，融合成更好的关系）

principle 3：

if the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship，she will prioritize her dignity above all else.
爱是一个人最具体最基本的行为，就是保护对方的尊严。在爱的过程中，褪去自己的傲慢，表达真实的情感需要，才能真正的放下“偏见”，拥抱好的关系。

还有下课前附加的星座分享答疑，看来你们都很感兴趣啊，看样子可以把“如何用星座识人爱人”的私房分享提上日程了[给你小心心]

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